10 smart ways to build your confidence as an adult

10 smart ways to build your confidence as an adult

When you’ve grown up without much confidence, it can feel strange and difficult to begin working on it in adulthood. A lot of the things we know and even the way we act is built into us from a very young age, so by the time we’re in our 20s, it can take a lot more effort to change.

That doesn’t mean it’s impossible, but it does mean you need to make a conscious effort and put in a lot more work. However, if you do this, you’ll likely come to the conclusion that it was the best thing you ever decided to do. Being confident as an adult can impact your relationships, job opportunities and your day to day life. Below, you’ll find 10 smart ways to build your confidence as an adult.

  1. Go out alone

One of the greatest ways to build your self-confidence is to go out alone. You don’t need to do this all the time, but you should aim to take yourself on dates and days out – perhaps once a month. Go somewhere you’ve always liked the idea of, and simply enjoy your surroundings. Try not to keep your head stuck in your phone for protection. Take yourself out to see a movie. These things might seem weird at first, but soon you’ll begin to enjoy your own company and realise exactly what you’re capable of.

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  1. Challenge yourself with something small each day

Set yourself a small challenge each day – it really doesn’t have to be anything big. Smile at a stranger, even say hello! How you challenge yourself is up to you, what matters is that it’s a small challenge that helps you to feel accomplished afterwards. Remember, there’s no end goal. You’re not trying to make a best friend – just say hello. It’s as simple as that.

  1. Change your posture

Your posture can have a big effect on your mood. If you walk around slumped over and eyes facing the floor, then of course you’re going to be less confident than somebody who walks with their shoulders back and head held high. Practice this new way of sitting and standing and see how you feel.

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  1. Read one self-help book a month

Reading books is a wonderful way to learn new things and become a better person. However, you don’t need to fly through them as quickly as possible to benefit. You could read or even listen to one self-help book a month, and by doing so you’ll be 12 books better off at the end of the year! If you learn something and implement it from each of these books, you’ll be happier and more confident in no time.

  1. Get into good grooming habits

Good grooming habits will help you to feel good about yourself. This isn’t about trying to live up to an impossibly high standard, so don’t get confused. How you choose to groom yourself will depend on what makes you feel good. For example, this article compares propecia and finasteride. If you have problems with hair loss, then you might just be able to find a solution. Small grooming habits don’t need to take over your life and they can make a huge difference.

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  1. Forget trying to keep up with other people

Trying to keep up with other people will only stress you out and make you unhappy. You need to do things on your own timeline, and don’t worry about who you think you’re supposed to be. As long as you’re doing what you enjoy and what you want to do in the moment, then you’re where you’re supposed to be. Keeping up with others based on what they put on Instagram can be depressing, and you’re only seeing a part of their highlight reel.

  1. Set out to learn a new skill

Learning a new skill can give you new found confidence. What is something you’ve always wanted to master? Go to a class!

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  1. Change the way you talk to yourself

What does your inner monologue sound like? If you’re not very nice to yourself, then you’re going to struggle with confidence. It takes effort to change, but try to talk to yourself how you would a friend. Also, it’s important to remember that you’re not your thoughts. The reason you’re mean to yourself is often because somebody close to you was mean to you.

  1. Move your body in an empowering way

Lifting weights and going to the gym are great and can inspire confidence in almost everyone. It’ll take a little time to get the basics and build up your strength, but you’ll feel awesome.

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  1. Choose your friends carefully

The people you spend time around can impact your confidence. Make sure they’re good for you and have your best interests at heart!

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